Accepting the fact that your partner is not keen to explore your sexual fantasies isn't easy. Here's help!
26-year-old Tanya dreamt of replicating the romantic moves she'd seen on screen last evening with her husband. But the moment she slipped into a sexy black dress, she knew something would go wrong with her anticipated night of pleasure. By the time the two went to bed, her better half was semi asleep and just as she reached across to him, all he sleepily mused was, 'Not tonight honey!'
A frequent occurrence in the sexual life of any urban couple, the moment your partner denies your sexual needs, the other half immediately starts nursing innumerable thoughts. "Is my wife having an affair or is that I fail to seduce her anymore?", "doesn't my husband love my touch?", are the most common thoughts that recur in a partner's head.
An unwillingness to get physically cozy and intimate often creates suspicion and doubts in the mind of the other partner. Too much sexual inadequacy often also creates physical distance and an emotional disconnect, often leading to the break down of marital ties.
A housewife says, "When he denied me for the first time, I got really embarrassed and didn't know how to react. I finally decided to go to bed without uttering a single word. Now this happens quite frequently and obviously it leads to a great amount of friction between us."
Accepting the fact that your partner is not keen to explore your sexual fantasies isn't easy to digest, so here are some tips to get the chemistry sizzling once again.
Is your technique right?
While you're in bed with your partner, try to explore beyond the regular pleasure points. Find out new ways to seduce your partner, try new positions and don't be afraid to go beyond the regular seduction techniques. All this can help you and your partner in renewing the passion for making love to each other.
Sunil Sharma, a marketing manager shares his experience, "I was tired of listening to this line from my wife, so I finally decided to sit across the table and discuss her sexual needs frankly. After a prolonged conversation, my wife revealed to me that I fail to arouse her completely. More than me touching her genitals, she liked kissing, fondling and hugging. She didn't like to be wild in bed and preferred a more subtle approach. I realized that I needed to be more attentive to her innate desires to help us bond better in bed."
Here's help: Dr Sanjay Chugh, psychologist, says, "A man can get his woman in the mood by being physically affectionate with her, like running his hands tenderly along her legs, stroking her hair, kissing her on her eyes or giving her a little love bite on her neck. You will completely turn her off if you are always in a mad rush for intercourse. Many women also get bored with having sex the same way for long. So never be afraid of trying out new things."
'It was a long tiring day'
Today's fast paced life often puts a lot of pressure on the couple which carries into the bedroom. This increases the stress level and thus they get lesser time to relax and rejuvenate themselves. Most of us are indulging in multitasking, which makes it difficult to concentrate on one's personal life.
Dr Samir Parikh, psychologist says, "Our work has become the primary aspect of our life. No wonder that it's the primary source of most of our problems as well. Something or the other goes wrong everyday in one's professional ambit. The work culture we have these days, completely drains us out. It brings in communication gap between couples and affects their sex drive too. Therefore, it is necessary to learn to switch off from work once you walk home."
Smita Sen, a public relation executive says, "Me and my husband hardly have any sex life now. We work for a BPO and our timings are completely different. We hardly get any time to spend with each other. Whenever I pursue him, he says he is too tired, when he is in the mood, I don't feel like making love to him. It's drawing us apart."
Here's help: If your partner has been trying hard to meet deadlines and cope up with mounting work pressure, it may become difficult for him/her to concentrate on lovemaking. It's important to show some concern towards your spouse. Try to find out what is bothering him/her, try to comfort them, give them a stimulating massage if they are fatigued as it may help them open up and talk about their work issues.
Once they talk frankly to you, you can comfort them and maybe get them into the mood for a night of passion. Try to do things that relax you both.
Indulging in a warm shower together, enjoying the experience in an atmosphere filled with scented candles and aroma oils can take away the pent up stress. If you have a bathtub, soak yourself with your beau and put on some Zen chants to make the environment soothing.
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26-year-old Tanya dreamt of replicating the romantic moves she'd seen on screen last evening with her husband. But the moment she slipped into a sexy black dress, she knew something would go wrong with her anticipated night of pleasure. By the time the two went to bed, her better half was semi asleep and just as she reached across to him, all he sleepily mused was, 'Not tonight honey!'
A frequent occurrence in the sexual life of any urban couple, the moment your partner denies your sexual needs, the other half immediately starts nursing innumerable thoughts. "Is my wife having an affair or is that I fail to seduce her anymore?", "doesn't my husband love my touch?", are the most common thoughts that recur in a partner's head.
An unwillingness to get physically cozy and intimate often creates suspicion and doubts in the mind of the other partner. Too much sexual inadequacy often also creates physical distance and an emotional disconnect, often leading to the break down of marital ties.
A housewife says, "When he denied me for the first time, I got really embarrassed and didn't know how to react. I finally decided to go to bed without uttering a single word. Now this happens quite frequently and obviously it leads to a great amount of friction between us."
Accepting the fact that your partner is not keen to explore your sexual fantasies isn't easy to digest, so here are some tips to get the chemistry sizzling once again.
Is your technique right?
While you're in bed with your partner, try to explore beyond the regular pleasure points. Find out new ways to seduce your partner, try new positions and don't be afraid to go beyond the regular seduction techniques. All this can help you and your partner in renewing the passion for making love to each other.
Sunil Sharma, a marketing manager shares his experience, "I was tired of listening to this line from my wife, so I finally decided to sit across the table and discuss her sexual needs frankly. After a prolonged conversation, my wife revealed to me that I fail to arouse her completely. More than me touching her genitals, she liked kissing, fondling and hugging. She didn't like to be wild in bed and preferred a more subtle approach. I realized that I needed to be more attentive to her innate desires to help us bond better in bed."
Here's help: Dr Sanjay Chugh, psychologist, says, "A man can get his woman in the mood by being physically affectionate with her, like running his hands tenderly along her legs, stroking her hair, kissing her on her eyes or giving her a little love bite on her neck. You will completely turn her off if you are always in a mad rush for intercourse. Many women also get bored with having sex the same way for long. So never be afraid of trying out new things."
'It was a long tiring day'
Today's fast paced life often puts a lot of pressure on the couple which carries into the bedroom. This increases the stress level and thus they get lesser time to relax and rejuvenate themselves. Most of us are indulging in multitasking, which makes it difficult to concentrate on one's personal life.
Dr Samir Parikh, psychologist says, "Our work has become the primary aspect of our life. No wonder that it's the primary source of most of our problems as well. Something or the other goes wrong everyday in one's professional ambit. The work culture we have these days, completely drains us out. It brings in communication gap between couples and affects their sex drive too. Therefore, it is necessary to learn to switch off from work once you walk home."
Smita Sen, a public relation executive says, "Me and my husband hardly have any sex life now. We work for a BPO and our timings are completely different. We hardly get any time to spend with each other. Whenever I pursue him, he says he is too tired, when he is in the mood, I don't feel like making love to him. It's drawing us apart."
Here's help: If your partner has been trying hard to meet deadlines and cope up with mounting work pressure, it may become difficult for him/her to concentrate on lovemaking. It's important to show some concern towards your spouse. Try to find out what is bothering him/her, try to comfort them, give them a stimulating massage if they are fatigued as it may help them open up and talk about their work issues.
Once they talk frankly to you, you can comfort them and maybe get them into the mood for a night of passion. Try to do things that relax you both.
Indulging in a warm shower together, enjoying the experience in an atmosphere filled with scented candles and aroma oils can take away the pent up stress. If you have a bathtub, soak yourself with your beau and put on some Zen chants to make the environment soothing.
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